From Curiosity to Community: The 5 Pillars
These 5 pillars will guide you on a path from hyper-independence to interdependence.
All of your work brings in these concepts in the order that supports your personal journey. You may encounter them in order, or a more organic way. But it is all designed to move you into a more supportive and cooperative engagement with others.
Curiosity
This begins with the journey of self-exploration and inquiry into who you know yourself to be.
Clarity
This is the thinning of the fog to envision who is there, what is happening, how it happened, and what can happen next?
Intuition
This is where you reconnect with your inner knowing to recalibrate your system to trust what you feel in your body and know to be your truth.
Connection
This is where in reconnecting to yourself you are presented with the opportunity to connect with others in a more understanding way.
Community
This is the goal of evolutionary integration into an interdependent collective of people for the betterment of one another through transparency, empathy, support, and consideration.
Let’s go deeper into each one…
Curiosity is about wondering what is within something and what influences it to be what it is. In order to work through your own shadow you have to be curious about what is within yourself. What has laid dormant or been left to languish in shadowed corners? Much of it is unhealed.
What is possible when you take the time to simply be curious? Not to change it, or to judge it, but to simply inquire about it. Your curiosity will extend into more than just yourself, but it has to start with yourself. Often you shut down this curiosity and go on auto pilot. You don’t think about it…you just do. And this is where you simply operate with your programming. And this programming may not actually benefit you or the interdependent relationships you want to build with others.
So your curiosity with self is where the seeds are planted for curiosity to continue to flourish.
Clarity comes from existing within the liminal space of unknowing. The curiosity to ask questions that you may not even know the answers to or how to form the question is a very likely starting place. Clarity is about removing the cobwebs and examining what’s here. Allowing it to be what it is, and not judging it for better or for worse. But the understanding allows you to then question if this is what you want or not.
Clarity comes from being able to witness something as it is and the way that it fits into the world around it. The understanding of the pieces allows you to better decide if this is the puzzle you want to piece together. You can begin to decide what works and what doesn’t. You can make choices from a place of having all the information, or at least as much of the information as possible at that point.
Decisions made in the light can weigh very differently.
Intuition is the truth that is always true even when you don’t know it to be. Or maybe don’t want it to be. Intuition is the feeling in your body when you know something but you don’t know why or how you know it. Sometimes you are disconnected from this sensation by experiences in life. However, you do not have to stay unplugged. Your intuition is a form of your inner knowing that guides you and reminds you who you are at your core outside of who you have to be, and have been prescribed to be by others.
Intuition is what tells you to turn left when the map says turn right.
This intuition is what guides you to exactly where you need to be even if you’re not sure how you got there. Trust in self allows you to come home to your intuition and to re-ignite its ability to inform you.
And because of this, intuition and self-trust go hand-in-hand.
Connection is a word to describe the way that you couple with others. Connection goes beyond the limits of societal relationships and is about being in relationship with others in ways that are interdependent.
It is about the collective when you:
Allow yourself to integrate with others
You offer support
You accept support
You allow yourself to collectively create environments where no one is left behind, and no one is required to heal alone. Healing does not happen in a vacuum, and existing alone is not the goal. Connection is about integration with others and the desired outcome of everyone thriving together. In order to approach this goal, you must go on your journey that starts with self-exploration and arrives at the gift of interdependent community.
This is where the reclamation of yourself to become an integrated part of the collective is clear as the goal.
Community is a place where you are home outside of yourself. The place where you go and know that you are cared for, safe, protected, respected, and honored. This is a pool of feeling that you offer and receive within a group of others, interdependently. Community is about making sure that no one is left to languish alone, and that all of our needs are met because if we leave some behind, then we are all left behind.
Community is where you can be yourself and know that you are witnessed as you are. The interdependence that is fostered is necessary because none of us do this alone. This is a team effort, and to acknowledge this is to work in tandem toward shared outcomes.
This is why it is so important to start this process by working on yourself so that you can show up ready to partner.
What stories were you given about love?
Self-love?
Partnered love?
Friend/familial love?
Communal love?